When I look at someone, I don’t pay attention to how much they complain. I don’t look at their flaws. I don’t hear all the noisy excuses they are making.
I simply see them as bigger and better than they see themselves.
I relate to them as giants… No matter what.
And if you are in a position to coach people—whether you are an entrepreneur, a boss, a manager, or a high-performance coach—I suggest that you see them, speak to them, and relate to them as giants.
You see, you can always get much more out of people. Everyone aspires to be more than what they are now and to do more than what they are currently doing. We all want to be extraordinary, and we all have something great inside us that wants to be expressed.
People want to be called into greatness.
I coach people for high-performance, and several years back, I was coaching a woman who had survived cancer.
She was inspired to make a difference for cancer patients, and, as a result, she had embarked on a cancer nutrition program so that people dealing with cancer had access to healthy, cancer-fighting food.
In the midst of planning this project, she learned that her own cancer had returned, and the prognosis was grave.
Out of the blue, she realized that the next few months of her life were going to be filled with chemotherapy, nausea, and lengthy hospital stays.
Suddenly, she needed to delay the project, and focus on extending her own life. Accomplishing her dreams became an afterthought.
When she told me she was going to put her project on the backburner, I listened with compassion, but then I simply told her: “No.”
“No,” I said. “This is important to you. You can do more than you think you can. Of course you should focus on getting better, but I know that you are also capable of doing something in the face of your disease.”
Though another coach might have taken a softer approach, I knew that she, like all people, was hungry to do something noble and be extraordinary. I knew she wanted to be amazing and generous and powerful.
Asking her for greatness was a gift and an acknowledgement.
I knew this project mattered to her, and though I knew it would take a lot for her to accomplish it while also going through chemotherapy, I also could see the giant she was. I knew she could do it.
“You can complete this project from anywhere by getting on the phone and having conversations and delegating. If it takes doing this with your last breath, then let it be your legacy,” I said.
And so she did it.
Amidst chemotherapy, depression, and nausea, she brought the project to life, and the program has gone on to help countless people who are struggling with the devastating effects of cancer and chemotherapy.
After launching the program, Astrid survived for about two years.
Before she died, she left a legacy that forever reminds people to ask extraordinary things of themselves and the people who surround them.
You see, we are all giants. Expect greatness from people, and you will receive their best.
P.S. As a high-performance coach, I use a five-point process to help my clients achieve their goals. The first part of my process is: “See people as a giants.” Stay tuned for the second tip for high-performance coaching…